When researchers asked people to tell the stories of how they fell in love, what were the eleven most common factors?
1. Similarity in attitudes, background, personality traits
2. Geographic proximity
3. Desirable characteristics of personality and appearance
4. Reciprocal affection, the fact that the other likes us
5. Satisfying needs
6. Physical and emotional arousal
7. Social influences, norms, and the approval of people in our circle
8. Specific cues in the beloved’s voice, eyes, posture, way of moving
9. Readiness for a romantic relationship
10. Opportunities to be alone together
11. Mystery, in the situation or the person
Some of these factors are worth a deeper look.
Let’s check out the specifics of how to make someone fall in love with you:
Being nearby helps a lot. Yeah, unromantic and obvious but if you’re looking for love, definitely ask yourself where you’re spending your time.
In another study, conducted in Columbus, Ohio, in the 1950s, 431 couples who applied for marriage licenses were interviewed. It turned out that 54% of the couples were separated by a distance of 16 blocks or fewer when they first went out together, and 37% were separated by a distance of 5 blocks or fewer. The number of marriages decreased as the distance increased between the couples’ places of residence.
Who becomes friends in the dorms at college? People who are similar? No.People who are nearby.